7 Ways To Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt

Imagine if you could really love like you’ve never been hurt. It’s possible for you when you know how to let go of the hurt and pain. You’re going to discover 7 ways to love like you’ve never been hurt and choose ONE of them to start.

On my morning walk today, the Lord asked me, “How would you love if you’ve never been hurt?” The first thing I thought of was to love fear-free. Why is that?

For most of my life, I have struggled with the fear of getting hurt by others. Unfortunately, that led to much isolation and unhealthy relationships. But today, the Lord wants to help you and me from the hurt so we can love one another freely.

This past Spring, I joined a book study on the book titled “Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt” by Jentzen Franklin. Watch this video to help you be free so you can love others.

Choose ONE of these ways to start loving one another as if you’ve never been hurt.

1. Love with Forgiveness

Everyone has been hurt including you. Only God knows what really happened to you. The good news is, that God has the answer to your pain. It’s forgiveness. You may think and believe you cannot forgive those who have hurt you.

The truth is you can because the Bible says you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you and that includes forgiveness. The ONLY way you are going to forgive anyone, including yourself, is to ask for God’s help.

It can be as simple as saying out loud, “I forgive (Name) for (what happened to you) in Jesus’ name. Amen!”

Once you take that first step then you can move on to the other ways of loving others like you’ve never been hurt.

2. Love with Patience

It can take time to experience healing from deep wounds and hurts. After you have willingly forgiven someone who hurt you, be patient with them and yourself. They may treat you the same exact way, but because you have chosen to forgive them again and again, how you love them will change.

I have a friend who was hurt many times even into her 50s by her Mom. Once she forgave her, she was free from how her Mom treated her. Now, her Mom still treats her the same way, but she loves her Mom with her patience because she has forgiven her and it does not hurt anymore.

3. Love with Consistency

There are times God wants to reconcile relationships in your life. That may not be your choice, but He knows what is best for you and others.

After you have forgiven someone who hurt you, it’s time to love them on a consistent basis just like Jesus does. We are to be imitators of Christ, aren’t we? Jesus died for all of us including those who hurt you. They need the Love of Christ too.

4. Love with Empathy

The definition of empathy is the ability to identify with or understand another’s situation or feelings. This is HUGE when it comes to loving someone like they never hurt you.

It takes an understanding from God to help you empathize with someone who caused you pain. He is All-Knowing and can give you an insight into what was happening in that person’s life when they hurt you. Everyone wants to be understood and for you love like you’ve never been hurt, God can help you have empathy.

5. Love like Jesus

When you study the Gospels, you will find how Jesus loved those who intentionally wanted to hurt him. Many did not agree with Him and even plotted to kill Him.

You might be thinking, “I’m not like Jesus.” Even if you are not loving like Jesus, He will help you when you ask Him. Remember He forgave all on the cross including those who hurt you, so you can too. You can love like Jesus when you follow His steps.

6. Love Unconditionally

How would you like someone to love you? It’s very restricting when we put limitations on love. It’s best to love like God loves all of us, and that’s unconditional. Imagine not putting any conditions on anyone to love them just like God does.

This may be stretching you and I understand that. It stretches me too. But with God’s help, we can love one another more freely because we don’t limit how we treat others from now on.

7. Love Fear-Free

I mentioned before, that when God asked me how I would love like I’ve never been hurt, my first thought was to love one another fear-free. So, what does that look like?

For me, it means that I would be worry-free, anxiety-free, and fretting-free when I love one another. In others words, I won’t be expecting them to hurt me even if they have done it for decades.

This last one is where I want to start. My question to you is since you now know 7 ways to love as you’ve never been hurt, which ONE do you want to start with? Please share in the Comments below. Thank you!

Meditate on Scriptures

Finally, I encourage you to meditate on the LOVE Scriptures to help you love like you’ve never been hurt.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (The Message)

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

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